Monthly Archives: October 2009

Chicago – a Marathon of Heart

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Why matters of life and death are really matters of the heart.  We all experience difficulties in our life.  Our premise is that many of these circumstances are based upon our assumptions of hopelessness and the way things should be.

The Way Things Are

Do you simply accept that the way things are is the way things are?    The truth be told, most of us accept this attitude toward life.  Perhaps you are feeling like there is no apparent way to move forward.   What if you were being  present to the way things are?  – without any “should, would, could ofs.”   Imagine the possibilities.

Being  with the way things are calls for an expansion of ourselves.  And so ten days ago (after 16 weeks of training),  with freezing (30 degrees) temperatures, (age 51) I was running 26.2 miles amongst an elite crowd of 46,000 + runners (and unable to find my 4:00 pace team) throughout the friendly Chicago neighborhoods – that’s the way things are

And only days prior to the marathon, I shared openly my life to the world.  The painful feelings of a mother whose daughter had died.  This post expanded me more than what I thought possible.  Opportunities to continue my love and honor for  Jodi, for other’s compassion (and comments) and to fully embrace the painful and joyous signs of life.   

I crossed the finish line at 4:18 and immediately my eyes teared towards the blue sky with reverence and gratitude for Jodi – being with and in my life.  And then I searched the crowds only to receive a big embrace from my raving fan Jamie – one who continues to teach me matters of the heart.  I felt alive and am ready for the next step, wherever it may lead.

Now that’s more than a marathon – it’s being with the way things are.

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Running the Chicago Marathon

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Why Not?

Why not  run a marathon?  Are you motivated by achievement of a personal best or an accomplishment of a goal?  Maybe the marathon defines success.   In a few days, I’m running the Chicago Marathon to honor – my daughter Jodi.

And so, this post is dedicated to Jodi.

Death has a way of challenging your own personal growth and development.  It is definitively the absolute finality of our physical being.  It comes with sharp awareness, clarity and focus in the realm of one’s reality with a new perspective.  And death will be your teacher in redefining all of one’s priorities – no matter how big or small.

Although it has been six years since the ultimate endurance race of my lifetime then at the age of 45.  That race had little to do with my physical fitness conditioning.  At that  moment in time, little did I know that it would significantly change me forever.

Because in January, 2005  my daughter Jodi at the age of nineteen died and so did a part of me.  

Cancer was not invited to be a part of my plan or Jodi’s.  And now, how do I as a mother begin to put all of the pieces together?   

Running Chicago

Marathon running is a conduit in the realm of possibilities – even when situations seem impossible.   It began in August, 2006 with the NYC Half Marathon – my first emergence back into a big city race.  Then, Marine Corps Marathon, October, 2007 and More Half Marathon, April, 2008 – both in cities which connected me with Jodi’s friends and pursued the goal of 50 miles by 50.

Marathons teach us to use our minds in a new way that truly defines ourselves.  Instead of focusing on assumptions or fears, we discover what magical powers we have!  We choose to run the race that is set before us with an attitude of “why not” as opposed to “why.” 

So, on Sunday I will be  running with you – Jodi beside me in spirit – and your brother cheering alongside the streets of Chicago and your father via text messages.  Not matter what the conditions are on race day, running slow doesn’t serve this race yet alone the greater race of  life.   Now I know that lesson for sure –  because you taught me.

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What Motivates You?

What Drives You?

As a hospice volunteer, I visit with those who are at the end of life, provide respite care for families and advocate for better patient care.  It is during the quiet moments of connection such as holding a patient that the gift of “why I do what I do” is presented.   Serving others motivates me and fulfills my purpose – what about you?

Choices to Act

Sometimes there is no connection – a patient will refuse my visit or offer to help (such as the family can do it all on their own.)   A feeling of being stuck.   At that critical moment I choose my intention – “to be fearless with no regrets.”  Hospice care is about being with the patient and family – it’s not about success and failure.  Simply ” TO BE”  is the gift to give with no regrets.

Your Purpose?  

Coaching is about asking powerful questions which results in your autonomy of choices.  And it’s these choices that drive us to do what we do.  (Audio dan_pink_on_motivation.html)  What’s your purpose?  And are you being driven by the fear of failure or the fear of regrets?  I’d love to hear from you.

 

 

 

 

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