Monthly Archives: March 2010

Life is too Short to Be in a Hurry

Here’s a letter written by Jodi.  I found this note on 3/31/01 – tucked in my running shoe on the eve of my second marathon.   And saved it – neither one of us knew our future for the next 45 months.

As Thoreau says, “Life is too short to be in a hurry.” 

Mom,

You have done so much for all of us.  You take care of your family more than you can imagine.  You strive to improve the club constantly. 

Now, tomorrow is your day to shine.  You’ve worked so hard to come this far now all you have to do is go to it.  We will love you no matter what. 

You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you!  After the race you can add this to your many lists of accomplishments. 

Go to it Mom and ya know what . . . enjoy yourself! 

You are God’s perfect child.

Love always,

Jodi

I’m so happy I didn’t throw out this note – it’s a gift telling me to slow down and enjoy.  Because if we are always on the go, we are reacting to the exigencies of day-to-day life rather than allowing ourselves the space to create a happy life. 

Isn’t it time you enjoyed the moments to create more happiness?

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“Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we’re here we should dance.”

“Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we’re here we should dance.”  — Unknown

A reader sent me this quote.  I’m curious what do you do when life knocks you down?  I believe Jodi would say, “it’s time to dance.”   Do you want to dance?

*Jodi dancing with “her girls and Andy” at The Hill;  five months later, life would present a party none of us expected or had hoped for.

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Why Is Having Fun a Challenge?

 Dear Jodi,

Why, I often wonder, is it so hard to know what I find fun?   I think it’s simply easier to “be myself” but it’s a constant challenge to have fun.  

I know many people have difficulty identifying what they like to do, for work and fun.  But that wasn’t true for you.  You had an ability to intertwine fun with your work – academics, sports, relationships, your life and even cancer – easily.  You were “being Jodi.”

So, I’ve been thinking that to have more fun in my life – I simply have to “be myself” and intend for fun.  Is fun more about the state of “being” and less about the activity of “doing?” 

I started thinking about how much fun you gave to others.  And even during times in the hospital, you created these moments of fun for nurses, physicians, patients and your visitors by simply “being Jodi.” 

Well, I found this photo – a reminder to lighten up and have more fun.  And with your encouragement, my intention to have more fun will be easier – simply “being me.”

Love,

Mom

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A Hero Travels the Hero’s Journey

Dear Jodi,

Throughout the years, I have been blessed with wonderful friends.  MJ is one who shares “loss” – our daughters.   She’s a talented writer and sent me  HERO – I want to share it with you, my hero.

“A hero travels the hero’s journey.  That’s when regular people such as you or me are asked to leave our routine life because something serious has occurred and we are asked to do something about it. 

We are “called to help.” We are called to save our king, our country, our friend, or ourself.  And because the task is arduous, we really don’t want to accept it. 

Once we fully face the seriousness of our challenge, we realize that nothing in our life will ever be the same.”

Although life will never be the same – the journey is leading me to live every day of my life.  Carpe Diem!

Love,

Mom

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“May you live every day of your life.”

“May you live every day of your life.”  — Jonathan Swift

Have you started living every day of your life?   I’m now reading  Eugene O’Kelly’s memoir, Chasing Daylight.  His message is beautiful – “seize the day.”    Please share your “carpe diem” experience with a comment or email me peg.calvario [at] gmail.[com].

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How Do You Define Luck?

Dear Jodi,

On this St. Patrick’s Day, does feeling lucky increase our level of happiness?  Is our luck defined by experiencing more good fortunes in life than misfortunes?  And why are some of us more luckier than others?

This got me thinking about you.   Did luck have any influence on your health, treatments, surgeries or your happiness and joy in life?   We never thought about luck or chance.  Instead, we chose to appreciate the many fortunes in our ordinary lives. 

Fortunes of  love, compassion, kindness, gratitude, happiness, joy and a deep appreciation for family and friends – all of which continue to increase my happiness each day. 

“Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.”  — Seneca

Maybe there is some truth in that quote, but for now I’m luckiest having you and Jamie as my children.

Love,

Mom

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Happiness is the Treasure of Friends

 

Dear Jodi,

We’re so grateful to have your friends, Katie and Anna in our lives.  Your brother is out with them tonight – and my heart is so happy. 

I know they love being all together – because you are ever-present in spirit with them.

Just the other day, I was visiting with a hospice client.  This work places me on the edges of death where the depths of real living occurs.   My client, who remains in bed, had an unexpected visit from a friend.   I was in awe as these two older women talked, laughed and hugged each other.  Love was present. 

I thought about when your friends would come to visit and how much you treasured their friendship.  Five years later, they are a part of our lives – this is real love.  And they each bring us happiness measured in kindness, laughter and even heart-felt tears – which I am in awe of gratitude.

Love,

Mom

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